How to create time to parent
Prioritizing your children without losing pieces of yourself
Balancing house chores, personal goals, and endless responsibilities is a challenge, but finding time for your children is essential for their growth and your relationship. This blog will help you prioritise parenting without losing yourself in the process.
Mindset shift
It is easy to compare your family time to what you see on YouTube or TikTok, but remember, what matters most is creating shared memories and strengthening your family’s bond. This can be as simple as sharing a meal, watching a show together, or playing a game everyone enjoys.
Family routine
Establish a family routine and find creative ways to stick to it. A routine builds security and structure, and allows you to be more present. For example, set aside 30 minutes each day to talk about everyone’s day or plans. Consistency helps, so use reminders or a schedule to stay on track.
Intentional quality time
As a solo parent of four children, I know it can be challenging to give each child the hours of quality time they deserve. However, I’ve learned that meaningful time matters more than the amount of time. Plan fun activities, such as arts and crafts, or involve your children in cooking. These moments create family unity.
Healthy boundaries
Solo parenting can cause burnout if you do not set healthy boundaries. Asking a trusted family member or friend for help gives you a chance to rest and make time for yourself. This also shows your children that setting boundaries is essential.
Stop overcommitting
Turn down commitments that take away from family time to restore balance and make parenting easier. Saying yes to others often means less time with your children. Before agreeing to new responsibilities, ask yourself if they align with your family priorities.
Being present
Children notice when you are not engaged. Even a small distraction can have an impact. Being physically present but mentally distracted is common. Put away phones and devices during family time to help yourself stay present when parenting.
Self care
Many parents forget the value of self-care—especially when parenting solo. However, self-care should be a priority. You cannot give to others if you are drained. Regular self-care helps you recharge and reduces stress, enabling you to be more present for your children.
Embracing Imperfections
Sometimes, work deadlines and children’s activities overlap, leaving you feeling overwhelmed. I have experienced this many times. Remember, the goal is not perfection; it is consistency and authenticity. Take a moment to reconnect with your child, whether through a hug or a shared laugh over a chaotic moment. This helps you keep moving forward.
Conclusion
Parenting is about building small, intentional connections with your children amid life's busyness. The most valuable gifts you can offer your children are your time and attention. Focus on balancing priorities and routines that strengthen family bonds. Share your experiences on how making time to parent has impacted you.
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